How to Ask Someone Out On a Date

Say that there’s a special person in your life.  They have caught your eye.  They give you your coffee every morning.  They bring the food cart to your work.  They gave you a ride home in a freak hailstorm and you had taken your bike that day despite the bad weather.  You like this person, and you want to spend more time with them.  You want to make moon eyes and kissy faces even.  How do you o about doing this?  There are some great ways to take a shot, and see where it goes.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dating

1.  Ask

The first step is accepting that you have to ask.  You can’t just wait around hoping for the best.  That rarely works and it takes way too long even if it does.  You need to make peace with being assertive and knowing that you’ll have to face to face broach the topic of a date.  Once you get past that stage, the anxiety of it all decreases exponentially.  Most people shy away from confrontation, but it is in your best interest to ignore those instincts and take control of your love life.

2.  The A-Team

You need to have a plan in place, so you love it when it comes together.  That is not to say that you need a Great Escape/National Treasure hidden maps and high stakes secrets type of plan.  It can be as as simple as “i’m going to do this right now”, or it can be to go on a hike and then ask, or you can plan some crazy scheme involving a roller coaster and a miniature goat.  As long as you set up the time and place mentally, it will be easier on you.  Just make sure to go through with it.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dating

3.  Afterward

You need a decent idea for afterward too.  It’s pretty frowned upon to just ask someone out, and then do nothing.  That just seems like you were aiming for approval or fishing for compliments.  You need to have something planned that you both like.  Jogging, wine tasting, river dancing, fighting the power.  As long as its something new or exciting or something that you both enjoy.  The point of doing stuff together is building a history together, of good memories.

4.  Acceptance

Before ever making your move, accept that “No” is a viable answer.  Not every relationship is meant to be romantic.  There might be very good reasons for a date refusal.  Things like scheduling, prior romantic entanglements, and you two just not being compatible.  It’s never been a law that attraction is mutual.  It reflects poorly on the one who asks if they freak out after getting turned down.  Not everyone gets all opportunities in life.  Be glad you were brave enough to try.